BUYING FOR SOMEONE YOU LOVE
Buying This for Your Mom? Read This First
If she's quietly planning her days around bathrooms, here's how to tell, what to get, and how to give it without making it awkward.
Maybe you've noticed. She knows where every bathroom is. She skips the long walk, sits out the dancing, or crosses her legs before she laughs. Maybe you're the one adding pads to her cart every month.
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You're not the only one shopping for someone else. Plenty of people who buy a pelvic floor trainer aren't the ones using it. One husband summed up his order in four words:
“Wife wants, Wife Gets!”A review of a pelvic floor trainer on Trustpilot
Does this sound like her?
- She finds the bathroom before she sits down anywhere
- She wears dark pants or a liner "just in case"
- She's skipped a walk, a trip or a class because of it
- She crosses her legs before a sneeze or a laugh
- She says "it's just my age"
- She's tried Kegels and isn't sure they did anything
Two or more? Keep reading.
1It's common. It isn't just her age.
Nearly half of women aged 50 to 80 have some bladder leaks, according to the University of Michigan's National Poll on Healthy Aging. A lot of them were told it's normal at their age, and believed it.
Exactly! Women in other countries don't always pee when they laugh because seeing a pelvic floor therapist is normal after giving birth. Drives me crazy that American women are told it is normal so they don't seek proper medical help (or insurance refuses to pay for it).
Women's forums have a phrase for it: common, but not normal. The pelvic floor is a muscle, and a muscle can be trained.
2What it is, in one minute
The Slay Harbor Pelvic Floor Trainer is a small probe and a handheld controller. The probe sends gentle, adjustable pulses that make the pelvic floor muscles contract, so she can feel exactly where the muscle is. Then she squeezes along with it.
Each session is about 25 minutes and switches off by itself. She lies back, puts a show on, and that's it. Four programs cover the two common kinds of leaks: P1 and P2 for the sneeze-and-laugh kind, P3 and P4 for the sudden "I have to go now" kind.
No app, no Wi-Fi, no pairing. A screen and a few buttons. If she can work a TV remote, she can work this.
3Check this list before you buy
It isn't for everyone, and it's kinder to check now than after she opens it. She should talk to her doctor first if she:
- has a pacemaker or another implanted device
- is pregnant
- has a pelvic infection or unexplained bleeding
- has pelvic pain, or has been told her pelvic floor may be too tight
If she already sees a doctor or physio about her bladder, it's an easy thing to bring along and ask about. Starting is gentle: the lowest level first, turned up one step at a time, only until the squeeze feels firm and comfortable.
4How to give it without making it awkward
Most women keep this private, and that's fine. A few things help:
- Give it one on one, not at the family table.
- Lead with what she's been missing, not the leak: "You said you wanted to do the long walks again."
- Let her open it later, on her own.
- Tell her it comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee, so there's no pressure.
5Get the kit, and give her time
She'll use a little water-based gel on the probe every session, so the Trainer + Lube Kit means she has everything from day one. At $124 it ships free.
And she'll need patience. The hard part is sticking with it:
Hey. Just here to say that my mom went through this one time, at about 10 years older. I suggested kegels to her and though she stopped after a few weeks of doing them, they helped.
Results take weeks, not days:
- Week 1Learn the sensation. Start on the lowest level and turn it up until the squeeze feels firm and comfortable.
- Week 2Squeeze along with each pulse. The muscle starts to feel like something you can find on purpose.
- Weeks 3 and 4It turns into routine: about 25 minutes, a show on, several evenings a week (follow the manual for how often).
- Weeks 5 to 12Start noticing the moments: the sneeze, the laugh, the stairs. Results vary and nothing is overnight. Pelvic floor programs in studies usually ran 8 to 12 weeks, so give it that long.
Until November 30, every trainer comes with a free Bonus Pack of 4 printable guides, including a 12-week plan and progress tracker to help her stick with it.
Giving it for the holidays? It ships in 2 to 4 business days, then 7 to 12 business days by tracked USPS, so order early.
Choose her trainer →THE SLAY HARBOR PELVIC FLOOR TRAINER
$99
Or $124 with the Lube Kit, shipped free. One-time price. No subscription. No app.
Early Black Friday: FREE Pelvic Floor Bonus Pack with your trainer: 4 printable guides, instant download.
- 4 programs: P1 and P2 for stress leaks, P3 and P4 for urge leaks
- About 25-minute sessions that switch off by themselves
- Screen and buttons. No app, no Wi-Fi
- Rechargeable, USB cable included
- 60-day money-back guarantee
Ships in 2 to 4 business days, then 7 to 12 business days tracked USPS
Real women. Real results.
Videos and photos from Slay Harbor customers.
I’m 35 and had issues after gaining and losing weight a few times. I was too embarrassed to talk to anyone, so I searched online and found Slay Harbor. It’s easy, private, and no more worrying during squats or jumping jacks.
My physical therapist suggested an EMS device at home between visits. It’s easy, comfortable, and I’ve noticed way fewer urgency issues. Super happy with it.
After my second pregnancy, I did Kegels for months with no idea if they were working. My physio suggested an EMS device, so I got Slay Harbor. A few weeks of nightly use and I have fewer leaks and more control.
31 and dealing with this after my first baby? Not fun. Four weeks with this and I’m not leaking during workouts anymore.
I research everything before I buy, and I’m glad I did. Six weeks in, I have fewer leaks and better control. The quality is impressive. If you’re on the fence, just get it.
I was skeptical of the claims, but the science behind EMS is legit. I use my Slay Harbor every night, and within a month my bladder control has improved. No more leaks on long shifts.
Charge it, press start, done. I use it before bed while scrolling. Three weeks in, fewer bathroom trips and no more accidents.
Skeptical at first, but she wouldn’t stop talking about hers. One month with Slay Harbor and I’ve stopped wearing liners completely. I can laugh, cough, and jump without fear.
I’m 58 and everything changed after menopause. Pelvic floor appointments were pricey, so I tried this instead. I use it every night, and around week 5 I noticed real improvement.
I’ve bought so much wellness stuff that ended up collecting dust, but not this. It’s easy and I feel stronger. My friends are all getting one now because I won’t stop talking about it.
I’ve wasted so much money on products that delivered nothing. The Slay Harbor Pelvic Floor Trainer actually works. I felt it from the first session, and 6 weeks in I feel stronger and more in control.
I’ve never had kids and still deal with bladder leaks. Six weeks with Slay Harbor and I finally feel normal. No more panicking when I sneeze, and I’m back at the gym.
Didn’t expect to love it this much. I use it while watching my shows and I’m already noticing a big difference in how I feel. Highly recommend.
Charge it, press start, done. I use it while my coffee brews in the morning.
No more crossing my legs during jump squats. Slay Harbor is easy and discreet.
It’s comfortable, easy to clean, and the screen is simple to follow. She loves hers as well.
Two babies in, and this finally gave me something that works. Fewer leaks in just a few weeks.
Questions people ask before they give it
What's in the box?
The controller, the vaginal probe, a charging cable, a lanyard and the user manual. Choose Trainer + Lube Kit if you'd like water-based lube included.
Will it hurt her?
It shouldn't. She starts at the lowest setting and presses up one step at a time, only until the squeeze feels firm and comfortable, and can turn it down or stop any time. A lot of women say the first session is mostly just a weird feeling.
Will she be able to set it up?
Yes. There's no app and nothing to pair. Charge it, add a little gel, insert the probe, pick a program and press start. The screen shows her program and level.
What if it isn't for her?
It comes with a 60-day money-back guarantee.
Who shouldn't use it?
She should talk to her doctor first if she is pregnant, has a pacemaker or another implanted device, or has a pelvic infection or unexplained bleeding. If she has pelvic pain or may have a pelvic floor that's too tight, a pelvic floor physio is the place to start. She should read the manual before her first session.
Poll: University of Michigan National Poll on Healthy Aging, women aged 50 to 80. Quotes are public posts about bladder leaks, not reviews of this product. Usernames are hidden for privacy.